"The disciples said to Him, "If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry.' But He said to them, 'Not all men can accept this statement, but only those to whom it has been given. For there are eunuchs who were born that way from their mother's womb; and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men; and there are also eunuchs who made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. He who is able to accept this, let him accept it.' " (Matthew 19:11-12)
God has a plan for us, whether it is singleness or marriage we don't know, but we can be certain He will bring it to pass. If Prince Charming is sent from God he'll come, even if he has to slay a dragon to reach us. But if God has not sent him, posting "husband wanted" adds won't help.
Marriage is not meant for everyone and neither is singleness. God conditions each person for the road ahead of them. Some people seem destined to be celibate from birth, others are single due to life's circumstances, and some desire to remain single for His kingdom. Whatever the reason, if a person is meant for singleness God will give them the strength for it. "Some Christians aren't married because they have a special gift of God and are uniquely prepared by the Holy Spirit for singleness" (John MacArthur, Divine Design, page 108).
A single girl may feel unwanted at times and long for a man's arms around her shoulders, but overall she'll be happy as she is. When I was younger, I dreamed of getting married and having an army of kids. That desire faded as I grew up and the thought of singleness shone like the sun. What else could I want? But that's the point--those meant to stay single don't want anything else. They know it's the life for them and they accept, love, and cherish it. They may balk and bite at first, but the bitter herbs will transform into honey. They don't want marriage or need it. Their love for God and God's love for them is deeper than the love of man and woman.
The people who are destined for family life are like a toy with batteries not included. But the single already have their batteries installed and don't need anyone to make them run properly. "I often think that those gifted with singleness are possibly the most fulfilled people of all because they don't need someone else to make them complete" (ibid., page 113).
"But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion." (1 Corinthians 7:9)
It is dangerous to live the life of a single person if you're meant for marriage. A fish taken out of water will die and a person who shouldn't remain single can suffer attacks of sin. You try to choke the desire, but instead it chokes you, leading you to do what you might not ordinarily do. If you have an overwhelming desire in your heart for marriage, pray to God about it. Make sure your desire is genuine, not merely to silence the murmurings of the world about your romantic state. God will provide your prince at the perfect time, granting the strength to resist sin and the patience to wait. If that isn't your calling, then He'll navigate your boat to a better harbor.
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